another quote in the yahoo group from 'they speak in silences'.

When our heart is torn and continues to be so,
we must give it to Him as it is. 

it sounds so easy but, for me, it's the hardest thing of all. 

allowing things to be as they are.

allowing God to be as He is;

and he allows me to be as I am?

the quote continues:
What He wants is for us to give ourselves to
Him as we are. If there is anything to be put
right He will do that, because we shall have
handed ourselves over completely to Him.
(my underlinings)